Match: Day 18

One more day people! I don’t know why I am so excited, I am not turning 13 or 16 or AAEAAQAAAAAAAAdVAAAAJGU0ODNiYTFhLTY5OWMtNGU3NC05Zjg1LTJhNTQ0ZDI5ZGQxMweven 21!

I keep seeing the ad on my Hulu stream and I was just about to text “FREE” to the number so that I can enjoy 7 days of free Match and find a boyfriend for my birthday… but I forget the number to text…

Oh Well… Back to the drawing board.

Sunday Funday

Sorry I haven’t been around lately. I have been in the throes of self diagnosis and trying to quell panic and hypochondrism <===My Word 🙂

Symptoms: sudden but brief abdominal pain. Kind of feels like contractions that are hours apart. No pregnancy here! Is there a doctor in the house?

Date Night….. Wine Time

If we were sharing a glass a wine together I would let you know

I am pleasantly exhausted today, so ready for sleep! My day was filled with work, work, and more work but I needed some “us time” so I stayed up to write this post. I added something new to the site;

Date Night. I think it is a great idea to have a date night with you. A co-ed gathering of sorts where we chit chat about the mundane and the exciting. Where we are allowed to share with each other on an even more personal level. I like connecting on a deeper level so, join in by commenting! If you have a blog that I managed to miss somehow drop it in the date night comments. Got some ideas for topics? Drop’em in the box!

blogs I follow. You’ll find this new addition to the right of your screen (on the pc). I follow many so I will rotate the list weekly. I thought I had it there the whole time because that is generally one of the first widgets I add to a blog. I think it a necessary feature because I would love for you to find out more about my personality by what I read.

I hope that you find a blog or two over there that serves you in some way, shape, or form. Maybe even make another friend!

Hugs and lots of kisses

Now that I’ve done a bit of housekeeping on to the fun.

The Soul Selects Her Own Society ~~ Emily Dickinson

The Soul selects her own Society–

Then—shuts the door—

To her divine Majority—

Present no more—


Unmoved—she notes the Chariots—pausing—

At her low Gate—

Unmoved—an Emperor be kneeling

Upon her Mat—


I’ve known her—from an ample nation—

Choose One—

Then—close the Valves of her attention—

Like Stone—

I enjoy this poem so much. I did not study poetry in a formal way and I interpret the poems in my own unique way. Tell me what you think this poem says. What does this mean?

Race and Dating

I’ve been staying away from Facebook lately, I have actually been doing pretty good at it. I think I do this because it is usually saturated with negativity. I check once, maybe twice a day..

This morning I checked Facebook and a friend of mine (more like family) posts questions posed to him via messenger and other sources and asks his network to weigh in. This gives insight to the poster from multiple respondents.

Side Note: This is my goal with this blog so email me and ask away

This mornings question I chose not to weigh in via Facebook rather I chose to post my response here… Here’s the question:

 Chuck, peep game. Im early 30s, handsome dude, no kids, no BM drama etc. I prefer to date outside of my race. I dont see myself marrying a black chick. In fact…. Its not gonna happen. For whatever reason, i never had any luck with them dating when i was younger and personally,if im gonna be honest… most of them let themselves go after 30 unlike many asian, white and some hispanic women. Either that or they have babby daddy drama or some other bullshit going on. The problem is, my moms and aunts feel a way about it. At this point, they just shake their head, but obviously i hatve the right to date who i want and who i think is gonna make me happy. Am i the bad guy here?

Personally, I haven’t dated much within my race. I married a Caucasian man and had 3 kids. I dated a couple of other white guys before and after my marriage and subsequent divorce. Previously I would have co-signed this statement mentioning that I hate the “yo ma” approach that I get. I’ve always felt uncomfortable trying to match that tone and often felt like I didn’t fit in with “my own people”. Then I thought about it. Why did I feel this way? What makes me feel so different and why didn’t I speak like that? I mean, I should right? The answer is simple. My network and social circle are small. When I say small, I mean miniscule. I haven’t ventured out into the world really, so why should I expect to stumble across a like-minded man who doesn’t “yo ma” me when I basically live in the “trap”. I also realized that it’s not just the black guys in the “trap” that “yo ma” me it’s ALL the guys. It’s the community in which I reside and don’t venture far from and thus I should expand my horizons if I want to come across a person (not just man) of any race (not just black) to start a conversation with something other than “yo ma”.

My advice for this man is just that, expand your horizons my friend! examine your surroundings and the people that you interact with. Date who you want to date but don’t group people because people, all shapes, sizes and breeding are different. Also to him I pose one question: Is that how you feel about your mother, sister, aunt and grandmother?

Let’s share caffeine and conversation

The window to the world or the window to the soul.

Let’s have a coffee together and talk about it

Things I have Learned

Things I have learned.
I signed up to take part in the writing 101 course offered by WordPress. You can never really learn too many things in this life.
Todays challenge was to make a list. The options for the list are as follows
*Things I like
*Things I’ve Learned
*Things I wish
I, naturally, went with, Things I have learned. This is because I have learned so much throughout my 32 years of living.  I have chosen to keep this list short by giving myself a 15 item max because otherwise this could go on a while.
Let’s begin:
1. compassion
2. empathy
3. my self-worth. When I was much younger, I really didn’t have anyone on “team Me”. No mentors or people telling me that I was actually worth something. It took a long time to figure out that I was worth so much more than I once thought. I have a lot of valuable skills and talents and abilities. Basically I bring a lot to the table. The greatest part is that I am more than willing to bring others to that level of self-worth.
4. to love myself. This one seems pretty simple but have you seen that twerking video? Yep that there is a lack of self-worth and self-love. There are so many videos out there of females that are just saying my only worth is my body and I only love attention.


5. I’m good at giving advice
6. how to de-escalate and argument to match someone’s personality in order to get through to them in their way
8. I will make a great cop
9. I am a natural at being attentive
10. most people are not mean, just have some processing to do
11. I love to learn
12. I am a natural massage therapist
13. I have the ability to be an extrovert as well as an introvert
14. I love to help others
15. I will always be okay

I think #15 is by far the most important life lesson of all time! I once feared going to interviews because there was always a sense of “what if they don’t hire me?” I would feel sick for hours before the interview and I can remember one time when I actually turned my car around and left! Now, well I think about the jobs that I have had and the interviews that did not conclude in employment and you know what, I lived. Nothing bad happened. I think about how scared I was when my ex-husband moved out leaving me with no job and three kids… Guess what, that was more than 6 years ago and I am doing much better now, emotionally, financially, spiritually, and physically(I suffered from migraine headaches at that time) than when we were together. We always think the world will end if _______<—— insert any situation, but we move past it and we survive.

Let’s Open This Up For Questions

Now that I think about it, I have been a life coach for a while. People ask me for advice all the time. In fact, I just had a Facebook session right now.

What’s better than free? Nothing! Right now I’m willing to do the work for free because I need to start somewhere.

The topic centered on whether or not a girl liked him. I think I did pretty well answering the question based on the information provided.

I would like to take a more public approach… With the, two heads are better than one theory in mind. You ask anonymously, I post and answer. Others will chime in and you check back and find the most suitable solution to your question. <<<<——- dedicated email address
Let’s give this a go